Nicky’s family is managing – just.
Nicky* is ten. He has an older brother and three younger siblings; between them they have three different fathers. Their latest “dad” has just moved out. In theory, this should lead to a calmer home life; in reality Gina, his mum, is suffering from depression and doing very little.
Two different doctors have seen the family this week – Gina for her depression and the youngest child for a chest infection. Neither has met Nicky, it’s a large practice and Nicky is relatively healthy.
The social worker has been round to visit. She thinks things are improving; Gina has managed a trip to town and Nan is coming over on Saturdays to bring shopping and do the family washing. There is pressure from above to close the file on the family but the social worker doesn’t want to do it quite yet. She doesn’t see Nicky as she visits while he is at school.
The family worker has been round too. The oldest brother has behaviour problems, and she is helping the family to cope. She too thinks things are improving – which is a relief as her boss is making it clear that she needs to start withdrawing her support – there are just too many families and too many problems. She has spoken to Nicky in the past, but this time he and his younger siblings are watching telly.
All of these people care, but because of the nature of their jobs they have to move on. The doctors have moved on to different patients, the social worker has gone to see a family coping with debt and addiction, the family worker to support a school refuser on the autistic spectrum.
Nicky’s school do not have the option of moving on. They are responsible for him and his siblings for 6 hours a day, 5 days a week during term time.
Nicky is not academic but he is keen. Every time his teacher asks for a volunteer, Nicky’s hand shoots up, usually accompanied by a cheerful grin. He likes and trusts his teacher and appreciates his jokes… However little things upset him. He is almost in tears when he loses his trainers or spills custard on lunch duty.
Nicky’s family are well known to school. The office staff are sympathetic when he and his siblings arrive late; sometimes when Nicky explains what’s happened they’re amazed they’ve managed to get there at all. On the mornings when it’s clear that no one has had much to eat since school lunch the day before the head takes them to the staff room and feeds them cornflakes.
Due to spending cuts there is no TA in Nicky’s class, but his teacher is doing his best to support him. He asks Nicky how things are going and is relieved to find that things are starting to improve. He suggests ways in which Nicky can get his homework done and arranges lifts so that he can play in the football match at another school.
Nicky’s school cares in a different way from the other agencies involved in the family’s life. They are involved with the children for years, every weekday during term time, picking up the pieces on a daily basis. Schools care in depth, trying to create a safe space for children who may have no other safe spaces.
Ironically the government, which loves to compartmentalise, thinks that supporting Nicky and his siblings is the job of the over stretched care agencies. As they see it, the role of the school is to teach Nicky the use of the subjunctive verb and how to add fractions with different denominators.
*While Nicky and his family are imaginary, there are families who are “just managing” in most schools. Many children live in family situations that are more difficult and are not even “just managing”.